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Condolence Gifts - What about an alternative to flowers?
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RiverMan on 04 February, 2009 07:15:00
 
When the deceased was well known, grieving family members may receive so many
flowers that they hardly notice the particular arrangement you lovingly
selected.  Often, other means of condolence are better appreciated and less
expensive than fresh flowers.
For those who want to stick close to tradition, consider sending a potted plant
from your own garden in a basket or pot from a thrift shop; grieving family
members can transplant your gift into their own yard and have a lasting memorial
to their loved one.
Making a donation to charity is becoming more common; many obituaries will
suggest a favored charity to receive gifts in lieu of flowers.  If no charity is
suggested, be sure to choose one the deceased would appreciate; don’t give to
PETA if his favorite meal was surf and turf or donate to a church if she was an
atheist.
Consider housesitting during the funeral, particularly if you did not know the
deceased well but are close to a family member.  Sometimes homes of grievers are
targets for burglars who browse the obituaries looking for names of family
members and funeral times.
Likewise, many families could use babysitting services. Families with children
too small to attend the funeral would greatly appreciate having someone they
know to stay with the young ones so that everyone else can attend.  If you plan
to attend the funeral yourself, offer to take the kids away for a few hours
while the adults make funeral arrangements.
Write a letter telling the family how much you appreciated the person who died;
a letter works well when you were closer to the deceased than to his family. 
Tell stories about their loved one that they might not have heard; recall fond
memories so that they have an opportunity to smile during a sad time.
Alternately, create a photo collage of the deceased, possibly to display at the
meal time for the funeral.  A collage gives mourners something to gather near
and often sparks memories for those who see it.
Cook a meal for the family.  If you don’t cook well, consider putting together
a tray of lunch meat (assuming they are not vegetarians) so that the family and
those who visit during the days following the death have something to prepare
easily when they get hungry.
Offer to do laundry or run errands that need to be done while the family is
planning the funeral or managing details of the estate.  One fewer thing on a
to-do list can be a big relief for someone who is grieving.
Provide correspondence services. If you know the family well, offer to make a
list of names and addresses of everyone who sent condolences, to make calls to
far-away friends and relatives who might not have heard about the death, or even
to answer their incoming calls for a while so they can rest.
Stick around. Mourners often say that the hardest time is after the funeral,
when all the commotion has died down and they are left alone. Be sure to check
in on a friend who has lost a loved one several weeks and months after the
funeral.  Call or send cards each month saying, “You’re still in my thoughts
and prayers,” or make a point to schedule more frequent visits if your friend
now lives alone.
Remember, each person mourns differently.  Know the person you are trying to
comfort and offer what will be most appreciated.  Some will want to talk; others
will need some space.  If you’re not sure what to do, consider asking your
friend how you can best help him or her get through the difficult grieving
process.
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Faithful Blessings Bouquet (3243)
This striking display of pure white lilies will send your heartfelt expressions
when words just aren't enough. Arranged in a white ceramic vase and enhanced by
a silvertone cross, this arrangement is perfect for memorial celebrations or
sympathy. Approx. 21"H x 15"W
Bright Messages (2758)
This bright arrangement with its vivid colors is absolutely beautiful and will
surely be an expression of your caring thoughts. Approx. 31"W X 25"H
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Respectful Pink Wreath (2786)
This wreath is created with delicate pink and peach blossoms to show your
sincere respects in a remarkable way. Approx. 27"D
Blooming Red Roses Basket (2804)
This traditional basket filled with twenty four red roses with eucalyptus
signifies that true love goes on forever.
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Hope and Harmony Spray (2774)
If you want to send a message of endearment, this lovely spray with its pink,
yellow and lavender flowers sends the message harmoniously. Approx. 34"W X 44"H
White Expressions Basket (2781)
If you want to pay tribute in a grand manner, send this impressive arrangement
of white flowers. They will convey exactly how you feel. Approx. 33"W X 38"H
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